Saturday, June 30, 2012

We Walk The Plank With Our Eyes Wide Open

People make mistakes.  Sometimes people make the same mistakes more than once.  But what is the difference between a believer's mistakes and a nonbeliever's mistakes?  They don't see things the way we see them.  They use standards set by society to determine right and wrong.  Their eyes are closed to the things we have been blessed to see.  But what is our excuse?  When we sin, we can't claim ignorance.  We can't profess that we didn't know.  When we get caught up in a stronghold of sin, we walk the plank with our eyes wide open. 

I've been struggling to understand the meaning of unconditional love, or agape love, from the giving and the receiving side.  Agape love is defined as selfless, sacrificial, unconditional love, the highest of the four types of love in the Bible.  Selfless. Sacrificial. Unconditional. Wow.  As humans, as sinners, is that really possible?  Through my experiences with family, friends, and relationships I have developed a strong skepticism toward this so called "unconditional love".  Unconditional love starts with understanding God's love and then loving yourself, not in an arrogant or self-absorbed way, but in a forgiving and understanding way.  My skepticism is rooted in an ongoing battle I continue to fight with insecurity...an inability to view myself as worthy of unconditional love or capable of unconditionally loving someone else.  I have always felt, and still feel, that if I "do something wrong" or disappoint someone, that is the end.  Their feelings, ideas, perceptions, and beliefs about me have changed and will not ever be the same again.  I live in fear of disappointing people...of disappointing God.  This fear permeates my relationships and daily interactions with people.  This fear is sin.  This fear is me questioning the Truth that God promises in the Bible.  I've been walking this plank for far too long.  I'm turning away from the violent sea that has hovered beneath me for many years and seeking an understanding of love that is patient, love that is kind.  Love that does not envy or boast, and that is not proud.  Love that does not dishonor others, is not self-seeking, and is not easily angered.  Love that keeps no records of wrongs...no matter the size or severity of those wrongs.  Love that does not delight in evil, but rejoices in the truth...even if the truth hurts.  Love that always protects, ALWAYS trusts, always hopes, and always perseveres.  

"Many people have traveled this world with different dreams, purposes and aspirations. Many are masters, teachers, inventors and followers. They were all sent by the creator of the universe to achieve one just course; “global peace and unification.” But this course cannot be achieved without unconditional love, which possesses the magical powers of the Divine for transformation. When the human race embraces love unconditional, then the lost will be found, the naked will be clothed, the hungry will be fed, the bombs will be destroyed and there will be peace and unity which will make us all to speak one language, “LOVE”.  Let love abide  ." -Philip D. Brown





Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Quick Update...

Just a quick update on the progress toward the goals I set for myself this year...

Myrtle Beach Marathon- February 18, 2011  Completed

National Board Certification information due- March 31, 2011  Completed the portfolio entries, but not feeling confident about it...took the assessment portion last Thursday and did not prepare at all.  Procrastination got the best of me on this one.  The official word won't be out until November, but I feel sure I'll be going for round two next year. But a few extra prayers would be nice...

Take the GRE (ugh)- Sometime before March 31, 2011 Completed...and hated every second of it!

Apply to Columbia International for Masters of Arts in Counseling- Applications due March 31, 2011 Completed, but not accepted.  Long story, crappy situation...but bottom line...being divorced for only a year kept me from getting accepted to the program.  So what now?

Pay off debt- Before August 1, 2011 Still working on this one...slow and steady

Buy a house- Sometime in the next year Became very discouraged about this one after my first couple offers were not accepted, stopped looking for a while, seller called a month and a half later to say she would accept my last offer.  The loan closing process has been everything but smooth and exciting, but I sealed the deal and am officially a homeowner.  So excited to start making it my own:)

Mud Run- April 2011 Completed (I admit to being the weakest link, didn't keep up the running like I should have after the marathons) Looking forward to being a little stronger in October!

Get more involved at church and in the community Still have a lot more to do and a lot more to learn!

Remain single (and date free) for a year (October 21, 2011-October 21, 2012) Yeah, um..about that...I wish I could just backspace over this last goal and pretend like I had never made it, but here it sits.  For now, let's just say...it's complicated, in an absolutely uncomplicated way.